From weeknight dinners and homework sessions to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki and Ben created a tight-knit, enviable family. From the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events, they both work well together. However, it only took a divorce to get them there.
At 12 years sober, Ben was what some might call a “dry drunk.” Searching for something other than a spiritual solution, he would place blame on his wife, not take any responsibility for his faults, and felt flat in his marriage.
“I had a strong foundation of recovery, but I stopped doing the things I needed to do on a daily basis for myself.”
At the time of their marriage, Niki and Ben had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can’t-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best as their primary purpose, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives.
By cleaning up the past, owning up to each other's faults, and working on differences it took a divorce to bring Ben’s family together. Today, though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.
In episode 283 of the SHAIR Podcast, you’ll learn about:
In their book, Our Happy Divorce, Ben and Nikki elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, and their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Their story is sure to inspire others to pursue something few believe is possible - a happy divorce.
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“I’m not good enough, I’m not pretty enough, I’m not old enough, period.”
We’ve all told ourselves this at one point or another. When these limited belief systems interfere with our daily lives, they prevent us from living in the present and fulfilling our true potential. These beliefs can get triggered by family, friends, and outer chaos that’s going on in our world when things become uncertain. In this week’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, we helped Liz. In fear about her job, her kids, and the social injustice happening in the world today, we uncovered the root cause of her fear and helped her find ways to begin to live in the solution.
We also helped Bennett. After getting sober, Bennett is having trouble navigating stimulus and response systems. As a great Father, Businessman, and person in recovery, Bennett is looking to break old habits and create new systems that will help him think his way into a better life.
In this week’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, you’ll learn:
For the show notes and links for this episode go to theshairpodcast.com/006.
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When we get sober, we prioritize healing our mental, emotional, and spiritual health, but what about our physical health? Stress, anxiety, and unprocessed trauma can leave an imprint on the body and affect our health for years to come.
On this week’s SHAIR Recovery Podcast, Practitioner Chris Ruane shares about a lifesaving practice that not only has helped her manage anxiety, stress, and trauma, but helped hundreds of others create lasting change.
Using Hanna Somatics as a pathway to empowerment, this form of body healing is a type of mind-body training that encourages physical and mental control over muscles to reduce pain and teach the brain to re-learn movements. Different from massage, Hanna Somatics creates a healing experience that taps into empowerment, removes barriers that keep us stuck, and can shed a lifetime of negative belief systems in just four sessions.
On today’s SHAIR Podcast, you’ll learn:
Chris Ruane is an educator in the field of movement and wellness, combining a 19 year practice of Hanna Somatics Education and Bodywork, Massage, Pilates, Yoga, Energy, and Breathwork. Her study of alignment and awareness, background as an Irish Dancer, athlete and musician give her personal insight into the mechanisms of chronic pain. Today she helps others learn how to get themselves “unstuck” from the physical and emotional patterns that prevent them from creating the life they want.
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In this week’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, we helped Chris navigate the uncomfortable world of boundaries. At home during the COVID-19 quarantine with his two adult sons, Chris has found himself engaging in maladaptive coping mechanisms to handle his frustrations.
Even after nine years of sobriety from addiction, he's fearful that his kids still see him as the "Alcoholic Dad." With strained relationships, unspoken feelings, and living in close quarters, he's forced to take a look at the frayed relationships he doesn't want to lose. He must ask himself if it's worth holding onto them, or if he should begin to set boundaries and risk having his sons in his life to be seen in a light that he undoubtedly deserves.
In this week’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, you’ll learn:
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