Nothing good comes from self-shaming. When relapse happens, it can be easy to fall into a shame cycle of self-loathing. When we promised ourselves we’d “quit for good,” or “never fall back into old patterns,” and find ourselves back there, it can be overwhelming. We may find ourselves scouring our memory to understand how we could have gotten back here. Or, maybe we’re stuck in a cycle of dealing with unresolved trauma - feeling waves of shame and guilt that are all consuming.
In today’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, the group helped Pete. Currently in a state of relapse, Pete struggles to confront his relapse behavior until the intervention of the group steps in. The group also helped Adam. Struggling with unresolved trauma, the group walks Adam through the process of self-forgiveness to find healing and safety.
In today’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, you’ll learn:
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After the loss of her Father, Brother, and Aunt, and a failed business, Lori Windfeldlt found her first sip of alcohol, “glorious.” As a stay at home mother, her habit continued to escalate until she had the realization that she lost her identity in a bottle of wine. Upon reaching her rock bottom moment, she found herself in a state of surrender asking for help.
Lori entered into a treatment facility and quickly learned that she also suffered from other co-occurring disorders including anxiety, depression, and unresolved trauma. Upon getting sober and learning more about herself, Lori discovered that sobriety and recovery were extremely different and there was more to recovery than just, “not drinking.”
Today, Lori is a Certified Professional Coach, Podcast Host, and Recovery Advocate and explores the entire spectrum of what the word recovery entails. With a “tell it like it is” approach to life, Lori supports all things recovery in her own unique and trenchant style.
Ending her tumultuous career as a drunken housewife in 2015, Lori has devoted herself to a life of recovery advocacy, joining the crusade to end the stigma, shame and embarrassment conventionally tied to mental illness, the disease of addiction, and recovery itself.
As a former Executive who climbed the corporate ladder for companies such as Microsoft and Charles River Laboratories, to a Franchisee turned stay-at- home Mom, Lori has the experience and expertise that allows her to specialize in mentoring Executives and Housewives alike.
Lori shares her dynamic personality as host and producer of the international sensation, The Recovery Hour Podcast. Chosen as one of Sierra Nevada’s Top 20 Powerful Women, Lori is a fixture in her community, providing service, sharing inspiring stories and proving we can and do recover.
In addition to Lori's social and media presence, she lends her expertise and experiences to clients as a Certified Professional Coach (CPC), Certified Professional Recovery Coach (CPRC) and is a She Recovers® designated Coach. In 2020, Lori was certified as a Peer Recovery Support Specialist by the state of Nevada. Lori works virtually with recovering men, women, and non-binary individuals across the globe, with a focus on strengths-based and trauma informed recovery modalities.
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For anyone looking to heal from past hurts, inner child work and reparenting is crucial. No matter what we do in our lives, we're trying to feel something. When we don't feel secure and confident within ourselves, we can find ourselves acting out with maladaptive behaviors caused by underlying hurts. Whether we know it or not, we spend years abusing ourselves and people around us, repeating patterns, and when we struggle with addiction can get caught in a cycle of chronic relapse. Oftentimes, it's these underlying hurts that have us wanting to be acknowledged, seen, and valued. Some of these issues can only be addressed with inner child work and reparenting ourselves.
In today’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, the group helped Angie. Struggling with asking a woman to become her sponsor, she’s committed to her recovery but feels unsure of herself to ask for help. The group also helped Lynne. Struggling to find long-term sobriety, she finds herself relapsing time and time again. The group helps her find empowerment by changing the scope of her recovery language and takes her back to a time in childhood where she found the need to escape and soothe herself.
In this recovery coaching episode you will learn:
- How to effectively get in touch with our inner child
- A reparenting exercise we can all repeat to ourselves to find compassion and empathy.
- Why inner child work is crucial to recovery.
- How the language we use can influence our relapse process
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In 2011, Don Cummins was homeless, desperate to get high, and had already served 20 years in prison for bank robberies. Not only suffering from mental health issues, addiction, and incarceration, the court had also declared him insane. Willing to do anything to escape from reality, he went to any lengths to not feel discomfort from the trauma he experienced and abuse he suffered.
From the age of 10 Don started to get high, and by the age of 13 was committed to a program, never to live at home again. The rest of his teenage years were spent in youth homes, juvenile detention centers, and at the age of 16, Don was sentenced to prison as an adult.
As the years went on, the drugs only got harder, and the prison sentenced only got longer. Reaching a bottom, Don faced the choice to attempt suicide or reach out for help. Facing an awakening while sitting in his prison cell at the age of 23, he realized the pattern of his denial state and the inability to see the truth. Years later at the age of 39, Don decided to begin working through resentment, anger, fear, and reached out for help and began putting in the work.
From being isolated and alone, Don began experiencing deep friendships and connections. From not knowing how to be loved, he ended up meeting the love of his life, and from being jobless, he went back to school and became a software developer that integrates with banks.
With an incredible self-transformation, Don’s story is a testament to overcoming adversity, overcoming obstacles, and finding freedom. Today, Don Cummins is an author and speaker whose passion is to spread the message that regardless of anyone’s background or life situation, absolutely anyone can overcome their obstacles and have the life they dream of.
Don lives in Florida with his wife Brianna and his two boys Levi and Finley. While he’s not hanging out with his family or working on a project, he’s riding his bike and playing guitar.
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